After my 11th fight, which you can read about here, it was suggested to me that I stop fighting altogether. This was something that struck me emotionally, and I was unsure how to react. I spoke to Sylvie von Duuglas-Ittu via Facebook, who told me that she had once experienced a similar situation. She then asked me to write a guest post for her site, 8 Limbs.
“After my last fight, I wasn’t feeling my best. I’d given a poor performance and felt like I’d let down and disappointed a lot of people, including myself. It was also my third consecutive loss. Those three things all felt pretty bad, but coping with loss isn’t such a hard thing to do. It was the bombshell that followed that was difficult for me to deal with.
The morning after the fight, I was approached by someone who is very close to me, who I highly respect, and who has been a large influence on me both inside and outside of the ring. I expected to be given the usual condolences, followed by a stern telling-off for my mistakes during the fight. However, I received neither. Instead, I was told simply and plainly that I should stop fighting…”
My post on Sylvie’s blog was published in July, and while it affected me a great deal at the time, after a period of reflection, I am able to say that it no longer bothers me. I took a couple of months off from fighting, and while I continued to train, I let myself relax a lot more than I normally would. I celebrated my birthday, took a holiday, visited some friends, and just focused on myself. After that, I feel totally refreshed and have now found my focus again. Needless to say, I shan’t be quitting fighting. In fact, I plan to have the next one as soon as possible.